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TEN POINTERS TO HELP YOU GET PREGNANT WHEN YOU THOUGHT YOU COULDN'T
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Synopsis
Getting Pregnant When You Thought You Couldn’t, second edition presents our unique and recently updated approach to helping couples cope with their infertility. The people we work with come to us despondent, brokenhearted, and often on the verge of marital breakup. While helping them deal with their grief, we also teach them an active approach to treatment. We coach them in ways to develop and maintain an optimistic outlook while engaging in these treatments. We help them learn to make important decisions so they can make these choices rationally and with all the essential information. We don't promise them that they'll get pregnant. But we do help them find a way to lead a satisfying life while seeking to become pregnant.
Our method is based upon Ten Pointers to Getting Pregnant When You Thought You Couldn’t and upon activities and exercises that put those pointers into action. The Pointers stem from experience with scores of infertile couples we have counseled as well as our experiences with our own infertility. Since these Pointers are an outgrowth of a healthy approach to any kind of problem solving, you instinctively may have incorporated some of them into your daily life already. Interestingly, people who read our first edition wrote to us to tell us that they had indeed embraced much of our advice instinctively and were then able to incorporate other new ideas into their planning and decision-making. Since publication of the first edition, we have also added a specific pointer on decision-making in response to the many requests for this skill.
We begin with The Getting Pregnant Quiz, a 10-item questionnaire that can help you find out how you deal with your infertility. Your answers to the quiz will help you map out your Psychological Getting Pregnant Profile. Using this information you can pinpoint any attitudes and behaviors that stand in your way.[i]
Please take a few minutes now to complete the quiz. Then score your answers. Before you begin, we recommend that you photocopy the quiz so you can retake it after you have completed the book and begun to incorporate the Pointers into your life. By the time you finish this book, you will have two books: the one you bought and the one you create as you photocopy pages and make your own personal notebook.TOPICS IN THIS CHAPTER
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[i] In the first edition of Getting Pregnant When You Thought You Couldn't. we used a 36 item Getting Pregnant quiz. Subsequently, our research has revealed that some of the items on the 36 question inventory were ambiguous. We also learned that we could get useful information more rapidly from a 9 item inventory where each item represented one of the pointers. We used the 9 item inventory for a survey of a large international sample that we conducted on the Internet. We found that responses to the inventory as a whole as well as to many of the individual items was highly correlated with how depressed people felt. The more people followed our pointers, the less depressed they felt.